today i was reading a problem pasted by a girl on the blog of paulo coelho.....

she loved a boy..madly in love but boy isnt aware and she thinks that he doesnt like her and he is flirt type...and she has a standstill in life,depression not happy with anything...i replied the following words to her-

hiiiiiii rajinder...i read about ur case and i will tell u what i believe in-if ur loved ones want to go let them go bcoz if they really love u they will come back...but u must inform him about ur feelings.sumtymes its a lack of communication...BUT WHY U R SAD ,u should be so happ that u have found ur love even if he isnt with u...its difficult to understand but take it this way- have some aim in life,some purpose,think what u wanted to be whaen u were young,what u like most and focus the energy of ur love towards that job....carry those good moments whaen u were with him and recall them in the tymes of despair so that u be happy...believe me if love is true,it will get the success. wait for the moment of reunion but dont make ur love ur zahir but the obsession to achieve ur aim.convey him ur feelings but dont beg for the love bcoz true love is unconditional...hope it will help u..

hope these will help her

HOW TO FIND AIM OF LIFE

Its very important to realize the aim of our life and we cant leave it on god.....there is a way to find it....try to remember whaen u were teenager or even before that..which activity u liked most ....when u felt that u have the energy to conquer the world....when u got the full satisfaction with urself....that was the moment and aim of ur life...u may say that they were many...but all of them must be related to one particular activity...
for example im an army officer...i believe that its the best profession for me...but its the best because it gives me a chance to lead people...in particular train them for betterment & gives me the opportunity to interact with different types of people and places....so my aim of life isnt tobe an soldier but to teach people the way of life...to lead them and train them so that they can be better in their lives....my problem is that i know my aim..bt the way to execute is a challenge bcoz it will ask for many sacrifices...but im quite young..20 yrs old...so whole life is there..
one more thing....read the book alchemist...if u have read it already...reread it deeply....u wil realize that god is waiting for us in our dreams....so just go and pursue them....